Why Didn't Someone Tell Me?

When most people think of their wedding day they have this perfect glamorous idea of what being a bride is like. But the truth is, being a bride can be pretty unpredictable and even gross at times! When I got married, I was sure that I was prepared for anything. I had planned every last detail out, brought an emergency kit, and I read up on every Bridal blog I could. But there were a few things that I just wasn't really aware would happen that did. And I want to pass it along to you so you can know and be prepared. 

  1. You will sweat. This is not a glamorous picture of your wedding day but it is reality. When nerves kick in, and weather, and all the hugging and dancing starts, that dress that you spent thousands on, will turn into a sweat box.  Chafing powder, mini fans, and air conditioning will be your friend! 

  2. Alone time is non-existent. From the moment you wake up to the moment your wedding ends, you will constantly be surrounded by all of your "paparazzi" (including in the bathroom) . It is important, even if you have to lock yourself in that same bathroom for a few minutes, that you take some time to be alone before the ceremony. Let it sink in that you're about to be married! And after your ceremony, schedule a time for you and your husband to be alone for a few minutes as well. You will be so thankful you had that time to just breathe and look each other in the eyes and realize what just happened. 

  3. Eating is hard to do. You have so many people to talk to and dancing to do that eating doesn't become a priority. But if you don't want to pass out on the dance floor then you need to make eating a priority. Have your planner bring your food to you and even be a body guard for a few minutes while you sit and eat during dinner hour. It is also always great to have your planner or caterer pack a to-go box with food and cake to munch on in your hotel room.  

  4. Something will go wrong. You cannot possibly plan for everything because you cannot predict what might go wrong. But it is helpful if you go into it knowing something will go wrong and that you will be ok with whatever it is because at the end of the day, you will still be married! This is also why it is so important to have a designated person or planner to be the one to deal with any problems that may arise.  

  5. Someone else will always think it is their day instead of yours. Don't be afraid to stick up for yourself and for your wedding day by telling others to respect your wishes. And try to know ahead of time who to keep busy the morning of the wedding with small jobs so the feel like they have more control. 

  6. Your face will hurt. By the end of the night, you will be sore and exhausted. And if things are going like they should, one of the main muscles that will hurt is your face. Smiling and laughing will be constant which means your cheeks will definitely get a workout in! You and your new husband may have to exchange jaw massages after the wedding. 

I hope after reading this you can be a little more prepared for your big wedding day. But remember, life isn't perfect and neither is a wedding and something you never expected will go wrong. But at the end of the day you will be married to your best friend and that's all that matters!